Looking after our own needs in a relationship Many of us go about our lives putting other people first. We have probably been brought up to feel good, validated and even safe by helping others. Some of us are so entrenched in this way of thinking that...
How to find a couples counsellor who is right for you It can be more than a little daunting, finding a couples counsellor. First, there is making the decision to look for relationship therapy in the first place, then you have to find the right therapist...
Couples Therapy Around Money Money can be difficult enough for us as individuals, but when two people come together, each with their own issues around money, it can lead to problems in a relationship. Sometimes, it's about not having enough, of course, but not always. Different...
Is Menopause Ruining Your Relationship? Does it feel like menopause or perimenopause has crept into your life and turned even your closest relationship upside down? You're not imagining it, and you certainly don't have to face it alone, whether it's you that is going through...
Paula Gardner, Couples Therapist in Kent Hello, I'm Paula Gardner and I'm a couples and relationship therapist seeing clients in Kent and online. As well as a therapist, I'm a business psychologist and that mindset actually makes my approach to couples therapy quite different from many...
When does couples therapy work best? Couples therapy is an investment, not just in financial terms, but also in time and effort. It's not something you can really do half-heartedly, not if you want it to help that is. From my experience, the people who get...
Switch off your phone to save your relationship! I talk to many people who wish their partners would switch off their phone to save their relationship. However, it is easier said than done. Many of us find it hard to switch off from social media. Even...
Is Therapy Or Coaching Better For Helping Your Relationship Are you in a place where you know you both need support, but are unsure whether therapy or coaching is better for your relationship? Qualified and experienced in both, I feel that I am in a good...
As a Human Givens relationship counsellor, my approach to Couples Counselling uses the Human Givens model. In short, a lot of it is about your needs. Everyone has fundamental physical and emotional needs—the"givens"—which contribute to emotional well-being and resilience. In couples counselling, I help partners...
Musing on toxic friendships Toxic friendships can be just as difficult as romantic relationships gone wrong. We tend to focus on our romantic relationships. However, for many of us, our friendships have endured much longer. They can bring us joy, support, fulfilment, excitement and that vital...