Sometimes it can be a wise decision to have therapy after redundancy. Redundancy can be a huge shock, a grief and even, for some a trauma. Thinking about our human needs, it’s a loss of control, security, achievement, connection and community, which are a fair number of them. It can also put you in a vulnerable position, emotionally and financially. Depending on how the redundancy was handled, it may even be impacting your ability to move on and find another job.
Sometimes, after redundancy we are able to move through the shock, the grief, the anger and various other emotions, until we finally pick ourself up and move forward. However, it’s important to acknowledge that these feelings can be very scary, and some people may need that extra support to help them get through this time. Others may even find that redundancy can trigger depression, especially if they have had it in the past. Or, they may start feeling continuously anxious, on edge, as if they were expecting yet another piece of bad news to land on them at any moment.
This isn’t uncommon. Any shock can send our nervous systems into a state of fight or flight and sometimes it can be hard to get ourselves out of it.
The biggest clue is in your behaviour and feelings. Signs that you could do with some outside help are:
If we lose our job, our life is probably going to change drastically. We will lose one of our support systems: the people we see at work every day and these can feel like a family in some workplaces. Our routine then goes. Why get up if there’s no work to get up for? We may have financial worries, or confusion about whether it is better to get a job, any job, even though you already know you’re not going to be happy doing what’s on offer. We will certainly lose our sense of security. Plus, those emotions that we spoke about; they may prevent you from thinking clearly and assessing the situation right at the time when you need powers of analysis and rational thought the most.
Even in this day and age, when redundancy is common, my clients often mention shame, and that can hold you back and make you feel less than worthy.
My job is to help you work through your emotions and deal with them in a more effective way, especially if they are spilling out or keeping you stuck. An absence of emotion is also cause for concern. I can share tips and tools to show you how to calm yourself down when you start to feel stressed, or even help you learn how to deal with panic attacks – not unheard of after redundancy. I also help my clients look at the scary subject of finances, which may feel unable to do on their own. What they have coming in, going out and whether there is a gap in between. Often, this can feel so overwhelming that people put this off, adding to their stress and anxiety.
We will look at practical things you can do to help yourself move on, and really use this time to think about what you want next. Getting you to an even better place is the plan.